The Real You

Previously, I mentioned that I was going to write a few posts about how we can have a greater impact on the communities where we live and worship. This week it is about being authentic, with ourselves and with others. The world needs to see the church as a place of broken, hurting, sin-prone people rather holy, (self)righteous, saints living as if we are above the world.

So how do we do that?

I think that we need to admit to ourselves that we are just as sinful and maybe even more-so since we became Christians. Every Sunday we apply our Cover-god makeup and come to church “acting” as if we have it all together. We hug, shake hands and kiss babies as if we are running for public office. We look perfect, our music is perfect, our messages are perfect, yet within the hearts of many church attenders is pain, and sadness, addictions, struggles, and failure that no one ever knows. Our pretending has made grace and mercy impotent.

Why do we pretend?

jesus maskMainly, I believe it is because everyone else is pretending too. We have books, bible studies, sermons, and Christian radio/television telling us that if we are Christian we will grow and have victory and experience freedom and when we don’t or we struggle we feel we are failures as believers. We are also too well aware of the “super Christians” that sit in the pews around us ready to judge the backslider. So it is better to hide the real you.

Yet Jesus’ grace and mercy are for the “real you”.

What if you and I were just honest? What if people knew the real you/me and loved us unconditionally anyway. Offering to pray for, listen to, hug, defend and  stand with you/me in the struggles. And what if they were honest with us.

Our congregations would be radically changed. People on the outside of our churches would see love like they have never experienced.

One of the tragedies in the church today is when a leader falls into sin. Rather than seeking to embrace them, love them, forgive them and then restore them to the position they once had, we condemn them and remove them from the church. This to me is a great injustice as it perverts the unconditional love God show to us… every moment of every day.

The world rejects their fallen leaders. the church should restore theirs.

The world rejects the marginalized, the weak, the “sinner”, the church should embrace them, for we are all together the same.


7 thoughts on “The Real You

  1. Mark – I know what you mean..sometimes it is all too easy to put on a “mask” and hide the real “you.”
    A little like putting on our Sunday best each week and noone really gets close enough to see the real person beneath the outward appearance.
    I like what you wrote about leaders falling into sin and others within the Church judging and removing them…I think and know of people who might have fallen in others expectations of them and it saddens me greatly to learn that instead of showing God’s love and forgiveness and staying by them to guide and help – they choose to judge, condemn and isolate.
    I am sure God would not ignore or banish them from a Church which professes to “love all”…and I know I would never ignore or forget them because they have made a mistake, no matter how big or little.
    And, whatever my friend has done or has not done, I can only think of all these lovely, good things which they have also done because they love God and what right have we to point a finger and become any kind of judge.
    You sound more like a Mark who has got his spirit back – good for you!

    1. Thanks for your insightful comments and your commitment to being “real” and to unconditional love. You are an inspiration. Peace to you my sister.

  2. eXPAND on the World rejects!!! for instance the world’s army will collect and try to treat their wounded but the Church shoots theirs.

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