Because it is the main virtue missing in the Evangelical church today.
I know that sounds harsh and unkind. I am also aware that many would dispute this by making the claim that they are active in a very loving church. To my detractors, I wish to offer you the following challenge.
Identify your church gossip. Every church has at least one or more. Sometimes they disguise themselves as “prayer warriors” or are involved in the church phone “prayer chain”. Sometimes they start a conversation with “I am not gossiping, I am just concerned about…” Trust me, they are there.
After you find him/her drop some hints that you have been questioning whether or not the Genesis creation stories should be taken literally. That you believe the theory of a worldwide flood, and Jonah and the fish are to be taken as allegory, not literal, or that you think that the scenario of the end times as popularized by Tim Lahaye in his Left Behind series is a fairy tale. The more conservative your “loving church” is, the sooner you will see a new Sunday school class or hear a sermon series skewering the questions you were pondering.
Are you a youth leader, Sunday school teacher, elder, deacon or in another leadership position in the “loving church” you attend. Let others in leadership know that you have been donating to Planned Parenthood for the last few years because you believe that poor women should have access to mammograms, and other disease preventing services. Tell them you enjoy reading the works of Christopher Hitchens, or Carl Sagan, as you find them very thought-provoking. Tell them you support marriage equality. Tell them you voted for President Obama in 2008. Then tell me what happened to the position of leadership you previously held.
Are these challenges too intense, well try this next one.
Visit at least three other Evangelical churches in your area, and outside of the mechanical greeters that hand you a bulletin and shake your hand while pulling you through the door, see how many people approach you and engage you in conversation that lasts longer than 2 minutes. For a real challenge attend a church for a month and see if anyone asks you to lunch after the service, or attempts to befriend you. I promise you will be disappointed.
There was a phase bantered around churches for a while, maybe it still is, that “love is a verb” meaning that our actions will prove the sincerity of words of love. I have a new phase that I think is more befitting of current evangelicalism.
“love is a facade”